I can definately see how it would be hard to believe someone saying that they have given up porn. For myself if my H said to me he was done with it I do think I would probably think he was lying. It is a really tough one to prove. I don't think it is even something that should be discussed between you 2 right now. She is just finding more reasons to end the marriage. All you can do is be true to yourself with this. As long as you know you are working on it and doing your best, that is all that matters.
I am glad V-day is over. It looks like yours wasn't that great either. Good to see you had a fun time with your S though. Keep DBing. You are doing great.
Hey Wanda! Funny how we're commenting on each others thread; I just left you one of yours.
If you read up on my posts from the past two weeks, you'd see that she is getting herself ready to leave and initiate divorce. Even as recent as last night did she told me she's not married to me anymore. I wonder why then if she said she's truly done, does she bring up porn over and over? Because besides being a constant thorn in her flesh (as in a pain point), I guess she is trying to remind herself (self-validation) why she wants a divorce. It's a mental roadblock to any kind of positive discourse, IMHO.
Yes, I too am glad Valentine's Day of 2011 is history. I will keep working on my DBing and hope that perhaps 2012's will have my wife in the picture. To be honest, I still have a lot of DB kinks to work out.
