It's really easier to follow along if you stick to one thread ... so I'm answering here but going to post in your main thread as well ...
Crisis can happen at anytime, mid-life can really be a misnomer ... that being said, invest some time in the resource threads because only you can decide if your husband is in crisis or not. Be careful with setting arbitrary deadlines, you back yourself into a corner that way. DBing is NOT about sitting on your heiny waiting for your WAS to come to their senses. It's about refinding yourself, learning to live your life true to yourself and your core. DB is about communication and compassion and being yourself. DB is about learning to love without expectations.
This is time to work on you. The crazy antics are not yours, so why would you be embarrased by them?
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
