Originally Posted By: Denver
Vets correct me if I am totally missing the mark here but is this not cake eating?


IMO No.

This is the wrong way to look at this right now.

It would be cake eating if she is living with you telling you she wants your M but still seeing OM.

She has left. She has moved on.

Your courage and your dedication to your M and the growth you have achieved has brought her back in to a degree.

Remember the squirrel.

She is tentively taking the nut from your hand.

She still doesn't trust you yet and she may run away.

You must try to see it from her perspective. OM is calming her fear and filling her needs.

Both things that you help create.

There is a fine line between her pursuing her own happiness and leaving because of your unhappiness.

Your unhappiness fed your failures and the demise of your M.

Right now you are not competing with other man as much as you are competing with this in her mind.

Denver at no other point in your journey is it more important than right now to be the man you desire to be.

This is not easy as you already know.

It is not pride you are swallowing, it is history.

She needs to see right now a man that has the courage to do that.

ACTIONS not words.

I am telling you Denver you have a great opportunity here and when you look at the man in the mirror

The man you have become and are still becoming. And let that guy make choices and live his life...

There is no way to fail here.

I am proud to know you and be witness to this endeavor you have decided to mount.

Now do it.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am