Outstanding H, F, F, L, P

[Busting Mode]

My Friends,

I would love to get your feedback on the email I am considering sending my WAW this morning, who is constantly in anguish about her life right now...



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Beckie,

I don't like seeing you in pain so I am writing to see what I can do to help.

I understand that right now you are feeling angry, unhappy, confused, alone...so many different things.

And my heart really goes out to you having to deal with [14 year old daughter] and [8 year old son] and everything else alone, while totally understanding that right now you feel a very strong need to listen to your heart and gain confidence in yourself and your decisions.

One thing I have often seen with us and have really come to respect, is that you are generally more intuitive, and I am generally more logical. You are often more comfortable being in your body without any need to think, and I am often more comfortable being in my head without any need to feel.

But I have also learned that in order to make good decisions, a person must listen to both their head and their heart.

Right now I feel that even if we are nothing more than friends, then certainly we can still help each other better understand and balance our thoughts and feelings, and start making better decisions for ourselves.

I also feel that part of the challenge right now, is that because you are so determined to stand up for yourself and make your own decisions, it might be harder for you to accept any help from me.

I feel that right now it is difficult for you to receive unbiased support from me, because we both know I am strongly biased towards us staying married and working through our challenges together, which appears to the polar opposite of the direction you are headed.

I feel that even if I offer you something good, there is an automatic suspicion, withdrawal or defence put up against it, that prevents you from receiving it.

Of course I could be mistaken, but that is how it feels.

Still, that doesn't take away my need to reach out to you when you're in pain.

Right now I have some ideas for how we can help each other start feeling better. Can I safely share some of my thoughts with you by email, in order to learn more about your feelings and see if I can help you get through all of this?

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What do you think? Send it? Don't send it? Anything I could improve?

Thanks,

Mike