Just one man's point of view. Don't take this as gospel:
Q: Why would my H stay with me if he is involved with someone else. A: Because you are letting him.
Q: Do you think after 2 years he is planning to split with me soon? A: Time is not a factor.
Q: When a W is too nice, etc is it a turn-off? A: Define "too nice." Spineless woman are very unattractive and draw only the weakest of men towards them. Unconditional love does not mean throwing out your standards.
Q: Should I continue to play the "naughty wife" which he loves, when it makes me feel like a tramp? A: It is more of a tramp who has so little respect for herself that she continues sleeping with a husband who remains unfaithful, than it does to make each other happy in the bedroom.
Q: Why is he looking outside of us for someone to meet his needs? A: Until our needs are being met they will continue driving our behavior. Right now your husband has needs that are not being met, and there is a very good chance he doesn't even know what they are...just as you are unaware of the needs that are driving you to drop your standards.
Welcome to the boards. You've got a lot of work ahead. There are people here who can help.
All is not lost. Right now you are exactly where you need to be to get the help that you require. Keep reading, keep on gathering different points of view, buy Michelle's books if you haven't got them, hire a coach Divorce Busting coach if you can afford it.
Congratulations on starting to demonstrate the true love and respect for yourself that will help you find your way.
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
