Your D's conversation with your W, and then your conversation about your D with you W made me tear up 2Step. This is so hard on us that sometimes we forget how difficult it is for any child that is involved... whether or not they are step-children like in you and I's situations.
I think that you should continue to be encouraged. You have such easy going conversations with your W that I just can't imagine that she believes that there may be something as good out there for her. When she decides to truly think about that, is when I think things will really turn for the better here.
Finally, yes, it is difficult to see your W when you haven't for so long. I experienced that on December 23rd and then again on January 23rd. Each time it had been a month in bw seeing her. I understand that shook up feeling very well. Hopefully soon, very soon, you will be seeing her again each and every day. Just keep that positive thought in your mind. It will keep you going.
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce