The unexamined life is not worth living

[FellOnBlackDays]

Denver,
I just got caught up on everything and wish I had some words of wisdom here. The problem is that you and I were once pretty much at the same spot on this horrible journey. But, at this point, you are miles ahead of me. So, unfortunately, anything I might tell you would be flying by the seat of my pants. I am sorry I can't do more.

I will tell you this. You have come this far and I don't think you should turn back now. Honestly, I don't know what I would do if my W told me I now had to compete for her, so to speak. You have made changes, recognized your mistakes, given her the space she needed. I would say that you should keep it up for now. I would hate to see you come this far and never get to know how the journey ends. You deserve to see how this ends. You really do.

At this point, I think you should continue to seek the advice of those that have been where you are. Unfortunately, I am not one of them. I am still sitting in the "waiting room" of marriage while you are in the "operating room" trying to save a mortally wounded patient. I will not leave you though, buddy. I will continue to monitor your posts and chime in from time to time if I can. You and I started this thing together and I would like us to see it through as BITS!

I wish you the very best of luck in this thing. Please keep posting!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD