Hello everyone, I stopped posting a while back about my situation thinking that I could get through to my WAW, boy what a mess up that was. To recap, Have been married 22 years with 5 children, my W told me last May she wanted a D. I did not find out about the OM until I saw texts on the phone bill. I have been out of the house for 9 months now. She is knee deep in this OM who I found out is 14 years younger than her. She just turned 50. I have read DR several times and I have not got it right. I am so frustrated that I can't prove to the W that this is wrong. I have been seeing a counsler for several months and taking AD. Almost everytime I see her , I get angry as hell. I have tried to tell her about what will happen if we do not get back together. We have lost our house to forclosure. And in doing that I have lost the ability to secure college loans for one of my daughters. My wife seems not to care, this is not the woman I married. I have been getting my issues resolved with my counsler, but it seems like the minute I see her the anger comes alive. I do not understand a person that will sacrafice all that she has worked for in her life by getting a divorce. I truly believe she is in MLC and the fog is thick. I have been trying to hangout with my three youngest daughters, but it seems like right now that only the 10 year old wants to be with me. My W told me that they love the OM and that they feel comfortable around him. This is the type of stuff that makes me angry. She also has moved them one hour away from me which just happens to be in another state. My L says we can fight it, but since we live in the country its an hour drive from anywhere so it really does not bother me. But the fact that the OM will stay there does. I am ready for some advice on here from the veterans. She has not brought up filing for D, or a separation agreement. I have downloaded all the forms for this divorce. By the end of the month all of our finances will be separate. One of my questions are, when she calls me about the washing machine do I go and fix it, when she calls me about the van do I go and fix it. I have been on this website for about 9 months. I want to do the right thing, but when these things are broken she does not have the money to fix them and that affects my girls. I so want my W back. I have been GAL but its hard as hell to not think about her. I know that she is not thinking clearly right now and I don't know if she ever will. I do know however that I will be ok which ever way this goes.. I am sorry for rambling but as most of you know, being on here helps, I have read alot and learned alot...I should have listened more... So give it to me please and maybe just maybe I can show this woman that I can get along with or without her.
