I think I'm mirroring your Rs as well. I know your pain all too well.
Last Saturday, we were walking in the mall and my W says, "hey, you should take the day off and we should go skiing on Valentines day while the kids are in daycare." We did today and frankly it was blast. We used to go skiing alot, but haven't in about 7 years. But at times I felt like she was just skiing with her friend instead of her husband. ZERO affection. Same when we got home. We even had about an hour at home with no kids. hmmmmm.
Of course this morning she was walking around in her black underwear. Seriously, why do you do this?
I agree about not wanting to be "that guy" I think for me, for the most part, I am back to the guy that she really feel in love with and has a great time. But I have my moments of weakness. My main issues is that I get really mad when she doesn't show any physical affection. It's okay to be mad at times, but I can't let her see it. I even when so far as to buy an app for my phone that helps me reset.
This is what makes piecing sooooo hard. IMO. I mean when we were dbing, it was easy but painful. What also makes it tough is that at times if feels like it's getting back to a good place and it just reminds me of how things were/can be.
My eggshell phase is kinda fading now. I know what ticks her off. We had a conversation a while back and she said to me that she doesn't expect us to never have fight or to talk about things. It's okay if that happens and it doesn't mean that it will set us back. That took a lot of pressure off me to be perfect and I could be myself more.
I know they don't allow it, but I almost wish I could call one of you when I was having a "moment" to talk me down. It's be kinda nice to have that outlet. This will have to do.
Keep up the good work fellas.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
