I'm not one of the BITS, but you've got the right idea. Don't respond. And if your H is the type to like his ego stoked, wait till he sees how well his W is living without him.
I always believe that FB is a good way to show your spower that you are GAL. And that's all that matters in the end.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Denver, I'd post the pic of my shoes on FB, but if H saw them, he would just be like she's shopping....again. Major bone of contention with him. Don't want to stir the pot too much with the court date pending. If I didn't have that, I would so post that pic in a heartbeat!!!
Post the picture of the shoes with the caption "Absolutely LOVE my Valentine's gift!!"
It would not be a lie... It was a gift... to yourself!
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Denver, I'd post the pic of my shoes on FB, but if H saw them, he would just be like she's shopping....again. Major bone of contention with him. Don't want to stir the pot too much with the court date pending. If I didn't have that, I would so post that pic in a heartbeat!!!
Post the picture of the shoes with the caption "Absolutely LOVE my Valentine's gift!!"
It would not be a lie... It was a gift... to yourself!
BITS Denver
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Ok say I decided not to respond the his msg. I'm just going to tuck it in my back pocket as hopefully another baby step. It was very nice of him to send me that whether it was after I posted on FB or not.
So this is what I ended up putting on my page today after all the FB responses I got yesterday. My mom really touched the lives of so many people. It was very nice to see so many people acknowledge her birthday thru me.
"Thank you everyone for all your wishes. It was greatly appreciated and I celebrated with a mix of flowers, dinner and a movie."
This can either shoot me in the foot or peak his curiosity. I truly hope it'as not going to be the first and that he's thinking, great she has FINALLY moved on.
Denver, LOVED the spin on the pic of the shoe idea. Went to take the pic and discovered I had no juice in the camera. I would have used my phone camera but it s**ks. So this ended up to be Plan B.
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Thanks about my mom. No we aren't ever too old. Mine's been gone for 9 years in October this year. She was not only my hero but the bestest friend anyone could ask for.
Big Hugs back - ZEN
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
i loved what you did and it will make him curious lets put it this way, if he does think "great she has someone else" then it would not have mattered anyway and he does not deserve you
i hope you are ok i know yesterday was hard on many levels
gosh - i wish we could just drop this stuff and get on with our lives and being happy - know what i mean?
i loved what you did and it will make him curious lets put it this way, if he does think "great she has someone else" then it would not have mattered anyway and he does not deserve you
i hope you are ok i know yesterday was hard on many levels
gosh - i wish we could just drop this stuff and get on with our lives and being happy - know what i mean?
More than you know grr.. more than you know. I just really miss my H every day even though he can be an a$$ and is being an A$$.
The other thing I did yesterday was send my MIL and step-FIL and e-card for their Valentine Anniv. My MIL and I have a jaded relationship, but I always sent her a paper card from H and I. I was grappling with what to do as she hasn;t been very nice to me during this whole process. Ya know, her son can do no wrong. But I did a 180 and sent the ecard. No response which was fine; didn't want one. But I keep making all these changes that appear to be throwing everyone for a loop. It feels good not in an arrogant way, but in a good way that the stuff I've been learning is actually being applied.
xoxo
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
