This was my H's email when he found out today that I had retained my own attorney.
I thought I was prepared, but this still really hurts...I didn't think my heart could break anymore than it has already. There are so many things that I want to say to H, but I understand that he will not hear them.
Thanks for warning me that you retained a lawyer.
I told you anything you disagreed with we could discuss, but you just have to do it your way.
Just remember, all the things I do for the girls now will be your responsibility if they bleed me dry including D18's almost $3000.00 car insurance bill and their cell phones and everything else.
I tried to be decent and pay two phone bills plus the electric and dish because I knew you were short in December/January but I see that doesn't matter. Which kind of always was the root of the problem.
SA, I'm sorry...Please don't buy into his "poor me" bs. I'm not the least bit surprised to read his response. Just as long as things are going their way, they are okay. If he were in your shoes, he would have done the exact same thing that you've done.
He's not the man you married right now and who knows who he will be years down the road. Please look at this as a business deal when dealing with the financial aspects. SA, if you don't look out for yourself, he won't do it for you.
It's going to be okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hang in there. Your H is just being an @$$ trying to continually draw you into his drama. Protect yourself first and foremost. He's going to be on the attack, so prepare yourself.
Things will turn out okay even though they seem miserable right now. You have the strength. YOU have the power.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
You're receiving good advice here. Don't get sucked into his warped reality. Don't get sucked into his negativity. Even when they are spouting viscious crap you still need to believe NONE of what they say and only 50% of what they do. You are doing right by your kids which is of utmost importance.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
There are a million ways to break one heart, aren't there?
You have a right to look after YOUR best interests. He has certainly thought about nothing but his own. Don't let him guilt you into second guessing yourself. He's just trying to manipulate you into feeling like you did something wrong and that it's all your fault. We know this game. Don't believe it. Stick to what you know.
Seeking, this is H lashing out. I have received numerous emails in this exact tone. I took them personally but they are really just H acting out and you happen to be the recipient on this occasion. I feel your pain and I can certainly relate to your reaction. It shows H is not in a good place and it certainly confirms and affirms your decision to use a L.
I agree with the others, and would add what is he worried about? We attack when we are scared. It hurts, but as Dolphin says, try not to take it personally. Yo can always block his emails you know
I know it hurts, I got all of this when I decided to use a lawyer, but it was such a good decision, especially if you have a good one. They protect us from so much, and show us we are perfectly reasonable and well within our rights.
Just for the record, my h told me, among many other things, that I would bankrupt us both in seeking a 'rock star' divorce!!
Thank you Snodderly, Mr.Bond, IB, Alb, Rae and Cas for your wise words and support. Words cannot express how much I appreciate the understanding and caring I receive from you all.
My S27 said to me yesterday, "Mom, if Dad was being fair, you having a L would not make him angry." He went on to say that this is what happens when you make the choices Dad made. He told me that yes, he does believe that his Dad is going through a MLC as it is the only thing that explains what happened to him. He also said that Dad's MLC doesn't trump your right to half of what you both spent years working for.
As a Mom it breaks my heart that the man that was a hero in his children's eyes has fallen so far that they no longer respect the man that he has become.
As a Mom it breaks my heart that the man that was a hero in his children's eyes has fallen so far that they no longer respect the man that he has become.
It is hard to see the ones we love in pain.
Even harder to understand we have to let them figure it out without our help.
I am proud to know you SA. You are one courageous lady.
I am following along as always as we walk together through this.
Let's keep steppin'
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
