Lost, hurt and scared ...

[MeMyselfandI]

Well, as expected, I got a big long email from H regarding all kinds of justifications for S's issues, (tired, 2 weeks is an issue, got into trouble, all kinds of excuses). H goes on to say that he did ask him again to make sure that OW was not a problem and S says that he is fine and he doesn't care, she is just not gonna be his Mom. H does aknowledge that he doesn't believe that this is S's problem but is possibly something that he feels uneasy about and cannot express. DUH, ya think?

H was also unsure what D wanted to do as he didn't get a chance to ask her about tonight so said he would let me know but maybe she should stay at his place. H did say he wouldn't discourage her if she really wanted a sleepover.

Anyway, although I wanted to spew all kinds of venom about why he needed to introduce the OW now (I have discovered that he has only been seeing her a month - was it really that urgent and is it really something that's gonna last - me thinks no), but regardless of what I was thinking, I think I did ok in my response. Here it is, 2 x 4's welcome if needed:

Thanks for the update, I think he is really confused and maybe not sure what he is feeling right now but knows that something just doesn't feel right. As I mentioned, when he was on his second week at my place, I came right out and asked both kids what they thought of it and he loved it so I dunno.

I think it would be best if I had some one on one time with him tonight and I can pick him up around 7 if that's ok with you. Maybe if D really has her mind set, you could suggest, (or I could talk to her and suggest) she could have a sleepover either tomorrow or on Wednesday after hockey? Something with just her and I and that way they are both getting some alone time.