Irrational Anger

[Queen_of_Swords]

I'm just p*ssed off.
I got a message my class time changed. I texted H about it. He says he wants his regular visitation time. Fine I can deal with that.
I just felt a flash of irrational anger to the point I was unable to answer his reply text message when he wrote he was "unable to watch the kids' on ___day." First thing that popped into my mind was: Why not? Got a hot date?"

So much for detachment and not giving a rip.

[Redo]

Look on the bright side. You recognized the emotion of anger. That's a very good step toward controlling it ultimately.

[lostinscared]

Not for nothing, but what part of this is irrational?? I can't "watch" the kids on such and such a date. Ummmm... he's not the freaking babysitter, he's their father. Not to fuel the fire here and there's no point in replying back to him. But I just wanted to say I understand.

[Queen_of_Swords]

I had no reason to be angry.

Given my thoughts and feelings today, I'm the one seriously considering bailing on our marriage and looking for someone that values the gifts I bring to a relationship.

And I know I got angry because my thinking he had a date, triggered my sense of worthlessness.

[lostinscared]

Awww... honey, if he had a date, that's a reflection on him not YOU!!!!

[Queen_of_Swords]

Thanks LIS, hard for me to see it that way after this long yannaknow?
I did respond...after a delay.
I told him that, "That was fine, I made other arrangements."

[zengypsy]

Hang in there girl - we got your back.

[Queen_of_Swords]

Thanks, that's why I'm venting here Zengypsy. Anywhere else is just not on.

[grr]

i think irrational anger is just part of this whole thing
it's most likely displaced anger, you know?

i need to read about your sitch scylla - sorry that i have not yet
but zen is right, we are here for you
and it is the place to come and vent

[Queen_of_Swords]

I'm glad this day is almost over. I made the best of it that I could. Kids enjoyed the chocolate hearts this morning and the pizza for dinner.
H. called at his regular time, I picked up the phoneand asked me how it was going ? I said it was going. Nothing else special said, just work convo before I turned it over to the kids.

Pretty much what I expected from him.