Tough day man. We all have hope, but unfortunately little influence on how this thing turns out. Only she can decide whether she wants to stay or not. Your kids are the same age as mine, so I can imagine the pain you are going through. My wife doesn't want to be in our home but is staying for the kids, or so I think.
The upside of your situation is that at least you know where its going. It may not be a great place initially, but down the road either way it can turn into something positive. Looks like I am stuck in the same horrible place for the rest of my life or until I decide to pull the plug. I don't think I could do that to my kids.
You need to be strong for your kids and be the best dad ever. Focus on your kids right now and use them to deflect the pain you are going through.
I know you were hoping for some kind of sign that she was staying, but unfortunately she is not there yet. I received nothing from my wife for VD and did not get her anything either. It killed me not to go out and buy something, even from the kids. I know that she does not want "anything" from me at this time other than to give her space.
Hang in there man. I don't think there is a more painful place on earth than the one you are in right now.
