Nic1, it seems as though you and I are hoping to setup a situation where our spouses will realize how we’ve changed. Believe me I would love for W to notice, take possession of her body and come home. Sadly in my sitch that is not likely.
This is all MO and you should consider the source. I am new on this board.
If you can dial the expectation down to zero, and the D and SIL can keep from pressuring your H you might pull this off. There are some pretty big pitfalls here though. How emotionally charged will the atmosphere be? Dinner at the house you both used to share will probably not be neutral ground. If you can afford dinner out it might be better assuming you still want to go through with it. Can you mull this over for 72 hrs before inviting? Consider what you’re expectation are. If you’re trying to enable the wedding plan discussion and nothing more then see how it goes on neutral ground in public at an affordable restaurant.
If you are trying to wave improvements so he’ll notice them that would be pursuing.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
