Hi Pickle, I think you need to go with your gut. You're being NICE, isn't going to get her to change her mind. She won't respect you if you go sleep on the couch to make her divorcing you more comfortable for her. She's her problem, man. If you feel that sharing is the right thing, then ok. But don't be a pushover, IMO.
Thanks IM. I thought and prayed about it alot. What I do, I do for my son, as I posted earlier. As far as respect goes, W hasn't respected me in long, long time. I am not concerned with her respect right now. I think her biggest struggle is her own self respect. That's her problem. It's not like I havn't tried to be a good father and husband. I can respect myself, because I know I don't control her.
We share the master suite as far as closet/bathroom and belongings go. I sleep in my son's bedroom and it really gives me more peace than what I had when fighting with W. At this stage in the sitch each time I give her what she wants, I feel more power over her for some odd reason.
Today I told my atty that we're ready to negotiate a settlement out of court. I think the sooner she gets the D the sooner she'll realize it is not the answer to all her problems. I am simply a bystander in the drama.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
