OT, I don't feel bad about the stroller. STBXW needs to get back in shape to feel better about herself and that just helps the girls. D11 needs BOTH parents staying in shape as an example of how to healthy.
I don't think OT is saying you need to "feel bad" about it. The question I would pose is are you going to start buying organic food for her because both parents need to be healthy, or paying car repairs because the kids need two parents with working cars. Will you chip in for a vacation for her because everyone needs to get away, it's good for the kids! Well, you get the drift. Most things can be legitimized in our minds, good or bad, so just be careful what you're footing the bill for and really think about why you're doing it. The fact that you are scraping to get by and you're forking out 40 bucks for her fitness needs sets off alarm bells for me. Read a book on Co-dependency from the library on one of those staying in Saturday nights and see if any of it fits your sitch.
