Sitting in my house all alone...

[Navyguy]

Talked with W for about 2 1/2 hours last night. She did bring up the thing with my parents...but moreso from the point of her being surprised that I had been talking to them about what's going on with us. But she did say she understood why I did it and she wasn't mad. That led into a discussion about selling the car...she did say that she was worried that I would resent her if things don't work out...I told her there's no way that would ever happen...selling it was the easiest thing I have ever done and I needed to do it for me. She then said that I'm making a lot of changes at once and seemed a bit overwhelmed by it...but she did say that without those changes she'd probably already have called it off.

And then, she started talking...and I listened, and validated. She said that things would be very different now if I had been like this all along, and that she wouldn't be holding on to some issues from our past like she is if I hadn't invalidated her so many times. Also talked a lot about how she feels like she has lost control of her life. She told me about how she wanted me to treat her. Treat her like she chose to be with me, not like she needs to be with me.

Ended with her saying she still doesn't know where she is...and still wants nothing from me right now. I told her that I hope that someday I get the chance to be the husband I've always wanted to be, and thanked her for talking to me, and told her it really felt good to listen to her.