Dixie... I only have a minute here to respond so I apologize if this seems blunt.

You are letting your fear drive you here. You fear what will happen if you cancel that dinner on Thursday night. You fear that you will again go days without hearing from you H if you cancel. You fear that it will drive him farther away rather than draw him closer.

Do NOT let your fear drive your actions Dixie.

Listen, you know from my threads that I'm a pro at doing much of what your H has done to you... control the R/M... I feel that I am speaking from experience here. Experience from your H's side of things.

Cancel the dinner.

Happy Vday Dixie! I'm thinking of you and everyone too!

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce