I am so freaking retarded, 2Step and I know it so don't remind me. I see the list of positives on here, but I want them to be in one place in a notebook. Ok, ok, that's what I did and when things were just plain crappy, I had my notes that reminded me of two things:
1) What I did right to get positive reactions 2) What actually were the positive reactions
I would write down things he said or did. I would write down why I thought it was positive in that moment. You know why? Well, give me an hour or two and I can talk myself out of any positive situation. You've watched me do it.
Has she always hated v-day? I know someone's wife did. For some reason I thought that was FOBD, though. If she didn't, I find it very intersting the way she's reacting also.
I know that you are struggling with what to do next, 2Step. Frankly, I'm struggling with coming up with an answer for you. I know that sounds crappy but I don't want to lead you down the wrong path. When do you speak to the coach next? I think you have to do something. I went back over that message about the book reading. She wants something.
