WAW tearing up our family

[ironMan]

Ok, one more dilemma ..... could use some input.

I have done all the work on our cars, and am quite mechanically inclined.

My W's car started having some issues this weekend. She called me, I told her, "I don't know what to tell you". Which was true. Now, I could probably diagnose the issue and then see if its something that I could fix or needed to be taken to the mechanic. But, W hasn't asked, so I haven't offered. She said "where should I take it?", and again, I truthfully said I don't know. She asked, the dealer? I said "heck no", that will cost you too much $$.

I am struggling with this. I feel that if she doesn't ask me to take a look at it, that I shouldn't volunteer. That she needs to get a handle on what life without me will be like. But, I'm having a hard time not just fixing this. I am Mr Fix it .... and really one of the problems that I had was always trying to fix her. So, I think I should let her struggle thru this as much as it pains me. Am I being too cold?