Bolt, XYZ know how hard it can be to go through this. the problem when things are bad expectations are zero. When things improve expectations start to creep in your mind - have to beat them back. :-)
Til next time.
That is the hardest part about this. When the W was ready to leave, I had zero expectations. Now that things are better it DOES creep in there.
You know what I'm doing to make it better? I remember the good things and cherish those. So when an "expectation" isn't met, I remember the other times it was and that comforts me.
When an expectation wasn't met, I would think "OOP! It's over. We can't make it through this." When just the day before or even the MORNING of, there were great signs that we're progressing.
It's hard but it's getting better every day.
My BIGGEST piece of advice is to THINK before doing/saying anything. You will remember the tools that you learned in DBing and put them into practice.
Another thing that I'm now doing until it's part of my being is the first 5 chapters of the Love Dare. Mine's highlighted so I only read my highlighted parts It basically says that TRUE love is patient, kind, thoughtful, unselfish and not irritable. I read those 5 and make them a part of my day. When I don't? I don't follow it. Following those makes me a better person and opens my W up more.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
It basically says that TRUE love is patient, kind, thoughtful, unselfish and not irritable. I read those 5 and make them a part of my day. When I don't? I don't follow it. Following those makes me a better person and opens my W up more.