From the Darkness Comes the Light!

[MichelleLT]

Hey 2step. Sorry I wasn't on. I don't tend to turn the computer on much over the weekends.

To throw my 2 cents in quickly: hold off on the flowers and such. Too much pressure at this point, I think it would be more likely to trigger withdrawal than progress.

As for your list...never say never. I always said if I was cheated on, I would be out. Yet instead I found MWD and DBing and these boards. Plus, infidelity is a pretty gray subject at this point. You have been S for months and D papers have been drawn up. That counts as infidelity only in the most technical sense.

I empathize with you about the whole D finalizing thing. That was also when I had decided I would be done. In reality, I ended up being done after a short-lived R attempt where he ran back to OW again.

None of us know what's going to happen. None of us know when we'll really be done. Some days (like the weekends when there is too much time to think) you feel done. But the next day, you find the strength to go on. It's just about taking it one day at a time, putting one foot in front of the other. And remember to look back periodically and realize how far you have walked!

You have made AMAZING progress, your situation is far from dire! There are SO many positives. Stay focused on that and just be patient.