Haha, booked in for NTC already Saffie, more classes the better we think!!
Thanks girls, it was so lovely to come here and read all of your replies and good wishes.
So we went to look at little newborn sleepsuits and all in ones yesterday and got all mushy and silly (especially H!) and chose some.. but H wouldnt let me buy any yet..he still wants to wait, I am only 21 weeks afterall.
We went to a pram shop so H could see the pram we ordered and he was very impressed with its light spinny action and says he wants to take charge of pushing the pram whenever we are out together. He just wants to look after us both and in fact, I swear he would breastfeed too if he could!! He's so excited, I'm so glad that I am making this happen for him, that he's going to get to be a Dad, strange thing to say, but I am. He'll be amazing too.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I got in from work and was taking my coat off, big belly sticking out and H was looking at me... and he came around the table and just put his arms around me and said, very sincerely and sadly "I'm so sorry I left you Al". I was pretty stunned. I thanked him for saying it and said, I was so worried about you that summer, I was desperately trying to get you to get some help or counselling and he said "I know you did. I really wasnt well back then, I'm so sorry".
I think its the first time he's ever said that, or in that way ..but its certainly the first time he has said something unprompted, without me starting the convo. Amazing. He first left in Sept 2007 and its taken until January 2011 for a proper, heartfelt, unprompted apology.
I always felt that many of us would get that eventually, whether we reconciled or not and AS LONG AS we stayed in somewhat amicable contact with our ex's. The Piscean did the same in 2009, a heartfelt volunteered apology and explanation.. and that took 15 years! It still meant a lot to me to get one though.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Heh. I wonder if I will ever get an apology. I don't think mine will ever get past his pride. Not that we have any contact, but he does know how to get in touch with me if he needed/wanted to since my cell and e-mail is all the same. But I'm definitely not holding my breath.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
That is amazing Ali. It had to feel so good to hear that from him. A validation of his mistake and regret. He has made it all right now though. You two are an amazing story of reconciliation and true love.
It's so beautiful to hear. Thank you so much for sharing that.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Thanks Mish.. yes Michelle, was thinking of you, we need to be in somewhat friendly or any contact I guess to expect an apology. H's MF was unfaithful to his ex fiance 17 times.. 17 !! The guilt and regret still eats him up and he still loves her, 2 longterm girlfriends later.. he said he wishes he could apologise to her and marry her.. I told him to write her a letter, but he said he couldnt possibly, it wouldnt be fair on her to "rake it all up", best to just leave her be to get on with her life. I disagreed with him! Heartfelt apologies and explanations are healing, no matter how many years they take.
Yesterday was our anniverary.. 12 years since our first date/kiss (thats English people for you! ). I realised H normally always arranged surprises and anniversary weekends, so I said I would arrange a day of surprises and treat him like a Princess to say thanks for being so brilliant and looking after me whilst pregnant .
So I made him brekkie in bed, then took him for an amazing 2 course Sunday lunch, followed by the afternoon in a swanky Spa with infinity pool and paid for him to use the Gym too.. then he had a surprise Aromatherapy Swiss Relaxation massage (which he loved !) and then I whisked him for dinner at a fancy fish restaurant we went to years ago on a romantic break and then to the see 127 hours!! He said it was the best day ever and he did indeed, feel like a Princess
I think thats filled his love bank up for the remainder of my pregnancy !
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
and says he wants to take charge of pushing the pram whenever we are out together. He just wants to look after us both and in fact, I swear he would breastfeed too if he could!! He's so excited, I'm so glad that I am making this happen for him, that he's going to get to be a Dad, strange thing to say, but I am. He'll be amazing too.
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