I am having the same thoughts...I am going to buy his favorite 2 bags of candy, put in a non V day gift bag and leave it for him. He will know that I remember V Day and that he was on my brain, but not so "well thought out" that he feels trapped.
me:51 H: 48 No kids together M:14 years seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11 Piecing 09/14
I will swing by the store tomorrow and pick up a card at least, she hates chocolate so I may buy a couple bags of her favorite Gummi Bears. That could work.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
I picked out a card and 3 bags of gummy bears. I also bought a heart shaped Polish pottery bowl. I can put the card & gummi's in there.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
I picked out a card and 3 bags of gummy bears. I also bought a heart shaped Polish pottery bowl. I can put the card & gummi's in there.
Hopefully it works out and I am crossing fingers I get something from her as well. God that would be the greatest feeling in such a long time. I am not expecting but wishful none the less.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Well this morning I gave her the new Pottery Dish filled with small and large bags of Gummi Bears along with card. I made sure the card did not say "I love you" in it and I just signed it secret admirer.
She said thanks and that was that. No real excitement or joy, just thank you.
So I was not expecting any thing other than that anyone, but at least I did what I wanted without chasing her or pushing the "love" thing on her.
Did I do ok??
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Well I just got home to nothing except my amazing daughter gave me some choclate for Valentine's Day. I expected nothing but was praying for something. I am in my bedroom crying as I post this.
I really need some help tonight. Why can't she stay!
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
Tough day man. We all have hope, but unfortunately little influence on how this thing turns out. Only she can decide whether she wants to stay or not. Your kids are the same age as mine, so I can imagine the pain you are going through. My wife doesn't want to be in our home but is staying for the kids, or so I think.
The upside of your situation is that at least you know where its going. It may not be a great place initially, but down the road either way it can turn into something positive. Looks like I am stuck in the same horrible place for the rest of my life or until I decide to pull the plug. I don't think I could do that to my kids.
You need to be strong for your kids and be the best dad ever. Focus on your kids right now and use them to deflect the pain you are going through.
I know you were hoping for some kind of sign that she was staying, but unfortunately she is not there yet. I received nothing from my wife for VD and did not get her anything either. It killed me not to go out and buy something, even from the kids. I know that she does not want "anything" from me at this time other than to give her space.
Hang in there man. I don't think there is a more painful place on earth than the one you are in right now.
It is so hard to give without expecting anything in return but in our sitch when we do we are often let down. I know you wanted something, not because the gift meant anything but at least it was a sign that your M had a pulse. When that did not happen you felt disappointed. I know the feeling well but that is why it is so important to keep yourself in check and accept the sitch for what it is. S2D I follow your sitch and I don’t always post because you have sandi, she is awesome, but I gotta tell you sometimes you set yourself up for the downfalls. Keep focused and stay the course. When you start to live what you know to be true then you will have the small victories you are seeking
I need feedback and just wish I could lower expectations. This morning she re inforced to me that she just needs space and time.
At least it wasnt I am leaving tomorrow, screw waiting until June.
Me - 39 yrs old Wife - 39 yrs old Married - 18 years Together - almost 21 year Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10 Bomb Dropped in May 2010 Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out
