The unexamined life is not worth living

[zengypsy]

Holy Sh!t TG... you're insight never ceases to amaze me. Ever time you post stuff, I feel like I'm watching my sitch in a movie!

Denver, you and your W at this juncture are BOTH going to have trust issues. You called her bluff one too many times (as did I with my own sitch), you chose other things over her.

To quote TG..."You kept making self destructive choices. Choices that hurt her because she cared about you and had taken vows to be your W. But you still chose to continue your behavior. Is she obligated by this to sacrifice her life for your choices?"

Look, I am certainly NOT saying what your W did was acceptable. But I really think that she felt justified it by being have the emotional D already in her head. It is totally her truth. You can't change what happend and she can't changed what happend. What you can both do is to continue to grow as individuals and start to get to know each other again. Because the truth for both of you now is that you are not the same people you were before and that's not a bad thing. This will only make you stronger in the end if you get to the point of R. I don't think an A necessarily has to be a deal breaker, but you can only make that decision for yourself and your situation.

And TG is right (yet again)...why should you care what other people think about what you decide to do in YOUR M? True friends support you no matter what and just want you to be happy even if they don't agree with your decision. And some won't but until they have walked in your shoes, they need to shut up.