From the Darkness Comes the Light!

[zengypsy]

2, I think that you have made great baby steps with your W since you joined these boards. Look at all the text msgs you have had with her, conversations and she even joined you for a DB'g session. I would kill to have even remotely that much contact with my H at this juncture.

LIS made a valid point. I think all of us as LBS and our WAS are all very conflicted. If we weren't why would be on this board and use DB'g as our bible? Everyone needs to get to a calmer place in their own way and time. We got jump started because our S left. It was the kick in the a$$ we needed and for some of us, it came with a huge cost.

Continue to give her the space she needs to emotionally catch up with you. The closer you both start to get in that regard, the easier it will be to reconnect. Even if the D goes thru, I don't think it will be the end of your story with her. It will be a new beginning. You can both come back stronger than ever.

Stay positive. Sending good vibes. You are an inspiration to your fellow BITS.