John: It sounds like you both made baby steps. Don't focus on it too much other than put in your back pocket as a positive. You both made a huge step by acknowledging each others feelings, taking ownership and apologizing for them.
Continue working on yourself; sounds like your W is doing the same. When you both get healthier, you can start to get to know the new you that you both have become. Start of as friends again and possibly rebuild. This can happen whether te D happens or not. You have to reconnect before you can reconcile. Both of you have trust issues with each other I'm sure at this point.
I think it sounds positive. Cool!
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11