Thanks everyone for the loving gesture. You are all right. I was thinking the same myself. I need to completely let him go, especially as far as caring about his trips.


He is making efforts to try to reconnect. He came over Sunday to try to talk, but I was involved in a painting project and continued my day. He texted 4x after that. I guess I am at a loss at what to do at this stage. Sometimes I respond to him, sometimes, I do not. He gets very irritated when I don't, but truly I don't care at this point. I am being very careful to maintain boundaries and to "get a life" in front of him. He has definitely noticed and I refuse to pursue in any way. If he wants this relationship, he is going to have to make all of the effort.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11