Not Sure Which Way to Go

[downandoutintn]

I have still be having some emotional ups and downs. This has been a rough/frustrating week. I have started detaching. I don't call her unless it relates to the kids. I have noticed a few small steps on her end such as compliments. Also there has been a couple of times that she has asked if I have someone else. So I have a couple of questions for you guys. I am trying to see the small steps that she may be taking.

1. Is her asking me if I have someone else a true gesture that she still cares or; if I have somebody, a way for her to justify her OM?

2. I had a rough week with getting stuck in the snow. She was the first one to try to help me out. Is this a sign that she still cares?

I have made it to the part of DR about LRT and I am going to start the techniques that are taught in there tomorrow. I am going to completely detach myself and start making myself more unavailable to her. I have done some of this I have started seeing signs of her wondering what I am doing. Hopefully the weather will stay nice so the boys and I can get out and enjoy outside some.

What are some signs that you guys have seen your S do once you started to detach?

Hope everyone's sitch is getting better day by day and hopefully what is best for each of you guys works out.

Every tomorrow is a new beginning! So wake up with a smile. I will!