The unexamined life is not worth living

[Denver_2010]

No FOBD... I'm sorry I whipped you into a frenzy man! LOL...

No, thanks for the support with those things. Someone questioned me calling OM a predator... that whipped me into a frenzy.

Listen, everyone, I am taking my hits for how I treated my W. I'm doing my best to work on my issues that caused that. But we are taught very early in our lives that two wrongs do not make a right. I don't think what my W did was right. I am accepting that it probably is forgivable and excusable considering my actions and KNOWING that my W would never have had done this but for feeling extremely abused emotionally. That's my bad. I get it. But her actions are NOT justified.

Forgiving and excusing someone is recognizing that the action was wrong, but that there were reasons for it. Beating the crap out of someone bc they hurt your child is forgivable and excusable. You are still, most likely going to get charged criminally for assault though. You just might not go to jail bc the judge will say that there was a valid excuse and therefore forgive you to a degree.

Justifying an action is saying that the action wasn't wrong. Killing someone bc they are threatening your life is self defense... it is a justifiable action. You will not get charged for killing that person.

See the difference with what I'm saying?

That is how I'm able to look at my situation. No more, no less. Not sure anyone can convince me that my w's actions are justifiable.

BITS
Denver