Well, a while back, I posted a couple of times on different threads that there are two types of divorce: 1) legal, and 2) emotional... I was recently reminded quite nicely by Cat about the whole emotional divorce thing. Apparently, I had it in my mind that you had to have a legal divorce BEFORE you could have an emotional D, but not the other way around. My W divorced me emotionally weeks before she even left our home. I see that now.

The question is how do you feel about it? You are NOT legally D'd... do you feel emotionally divorced from your H? It does not sound like it to me. And I think the fact that you are here on this forum should speak volumes to where you are at with that.

Plus, many times, there are religious beliefs to be considered. My W and I, not so much. How about with you?

Ultimately, it is your call. Only you can decide when you have had enough and are done. You control this Scylia.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce