The unexamined life is not worth living

[Denver_2010]

In your W mind she left you, done and done, what is the easiest way to get a girl into bed…………….find one that is emotionally weak or going through heartbreak. They need attention they crave it. This vulture saw an opportunity and he came in. Sorry ladies but that is a fact, a secret every man knows.

You know what counts here. She told you. She was honest with you and said it. She even told you to take some time to think about how you want to handle this.

“She vowed to be faithful to me until death do us part... She gets out of that bc she decides that she doesn't want to do it anymore? That she is 'emotionally divorced'?”

I think you answered your own question here. You broke your vows you left her long before she left you. You emotionally divorced her before she divorced you. Once she left there is no vows anymore there is nothing. There is only her waiting to get the money to make the D final and legal. Maybe you had no idea what was going on inside her heart, it doesn’t make it any less real, it was real enough for her. So yes the PA is gut wrenching, I know this feeling like you would not believe, but it is ONE in a laundry list of things that have happened between the two of you.

Sorry it took me so long to respond to this 2Step. Unfortunately, I can't debate you bc there isn't anything in your post to debate. You are dead on with all of it.

One thing that especially struck a nerve with me is your comment about the vulture who saw the opportunity... this is what absolutely happened. My W was lonely, had been for 10 months bc I was such a jacka$s, and then she was emotionally weak while planning on, and executing, the physical S.

This is where my guilt comes in. I allowed this vulture... this predator... the opportunity to take advantage of this situation.

AND BTW, NOTHING, EVER will convince me that OM is NOT a predator. No man messes with another man's W!! You see that ring, that woman is off limits. And to top it off, this fing guy is messing with a another man's W who has an 11 year old son. What kind of guy does this?! And who could defend this kind of behavior?

The old Denver would track this guy down, take his head off, and shove his trumpet down his throat...

uggg... gotta suppress those feelings. Does me no good.

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Denver