Shine on you crazy diamond...

[Denver_2010]

Man FOBD, I'm sorry that you are having such a rough weekend. I know that this doesn't make much difference to you right now, but I have been there. I know that it is hard.

I also know that feeling of indifference from your W. Basically the last 2 weeks and the whole month of December, she seemed indifferent to me and our M. Not sure you want to hear that since December is probably the time that my W "hated my guts," was 'emotionally divorced' from me, and dating OM. But I think that it's important for me to point out to you bc I NEVER thought my W was capable of being that way. And when she was, I was like you. I thought that there was no way that she was ever going to come around. Now, things ARE different.

My point is, is that your W still may come around. My guess is that she still has many, many strong feelings for you that she is suppressing. Remember, if she doesn't suppress those feelings, then she has to deal with them. If she has to deal with them, then she won't have the strength to do what she wants to do right now. I really think that it is a subconscious thing on their part.

But this is why it is so important for you to leave her alone right now. Give her space and time away from you so that her mind gets distracted from those angry thoughts that her subconscious is creating for self protection, to thoughts of 'what is FOBD up to?... wonder why he hasn't contacted me?... wonder if he's dating?' and to thoughts of the good memories of your M. I think that this will happen. But it is going to take time, space apart, and patience from you.

You're doing a great job FOBD. Keep your head up and keep GALing. I like your football analogy, so pretend that this is just half time of the game and you are down by 10 points or so. You're still way in the game man!!

BITS
Denver