Recovering after a same sex affair

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Feeling a little anxious right now. W came by at 8:00 this morning to pick up our S and hung around until 11:00. That made me happy.

I mentioned in my last post about her being across town. I started doing a ton of work to get my mind of things. I called her back several hours later. She then said that she had gone back to her brother's for our son's nap, but she was now at Barnes and Noble near us with our S. I decided to head out and run some errands myself. Called her to ask about what size socks to get our S. She didn't answer but called back about 30 minutes later. When I asked what she was up to, she got defensive and said that felt like I was interrogating her. I told her that I did not want to do that to her and just wanted to see how her day was going.

It is days like this that really get my anxiety up. Since the putting the OW on "the shelve" as she mentioned yesterday, my mind is racing and now wondering if she is truly sticking to her word that there is no contact. I know that there is nothing I can do about it, but my wife knows the outcome is divorce if she carries on the affair.

Do I simply forget about it? My wife and I mentioned that our couples therapy is a safe zone for truth. Do I bring it up there and ask her to again assure me that there has been no contact , as her "shelf" comment made me concerned? I could use some help here. Based on the history and uncertainty of it all, I am so confused right now. Thanks!