I am doing good. Have had an up and down week. My H's great aunt died and my MIL asked that I still come pay my respects and spend time with the family. At the viewing on Tuesday night H and I played a dance where when I moved he moved in the opposite direction. I leave this up to the MLC because we had a good weekend experience, he is withdrawing again. So, I just kept my distance and spent time with MIL and family, who by the way support me 100%. On Wed. when I got to the service I walked right up and sat with MIL, FIL, and H. What was so great is the preacher said so many things my H needed to hear and used some of the scripture that I had actually been praying on about my marriage. H was a pallbearer and asked if he could ride with me to the cemetery. Of course I said yes. When I was driving him back to his car, he made a comment about how a preacher always has to ask others to come be saved. I quietly said a prayer and stated, "You know, I am sure there were people who needed to hear it." H didn't say a word after that. Then we go to his cousin's house to eat lunch with the family. I am just doing my thing, helping getting food out and such. Then when it is time to eat, H promptly sits down at the table right next to me! CRAZY! I know!! I had an appointment to go to so I was the first to leave and as I was saying my goodbye H comes into the living room like I was going to hug him too, but I didn't! He stopped me and asked if I was going to the game to see D16 dance on Thur night. I wanted to look at him like he was crazy and say DUH! But, I sweetly said, yes, and that I would be cooking dinner before the game and if he would like to come for dinner he was welcomed, otherwise I would see him at the game. Then I turned and left. He texted me later about some news he had heard and said he would come for dinner. These are all signs to me that God is working on H.
Thursday, H came for dinner and even complemented me on the meal. We went to the game, separate cars, but we sat next to one another, but it was a bit strained feeling and then I realized he was texting with OW. So, I just prayed and visited with my friends whom we sat with. Since then, I have not heard from him at all. Neither has D16. A friend who lives in the same city as OW called and told me she saw them together on Fri. She said as soon as H saw her he lead OW in a different direction. I told my friend that God put her there to make him think about me all weekend while he is with OW! LOL!
I have been a little down with Vday coming, but thankfully with lots of prayer and good advice from friends I am focusing on my D16 for the day. Today was hard at Mass this morning. I went to see our priest on Thur morning as asked that he include a prayer for all marriages and especially hurting marriages into the prayers for the faithful. Today, Fr.'s homily was all about marriage, including the hurting ones. He stated there are many in our parish family who have hurting marriages. He then stated, "Are you praying for them or talking about them? You should be praying, because marriage is a lifetime vocation and those hurting need your prayer to the restoration of their marriages." I of course was crying by the end of the homily where he included a special prayer for all marriages and solid and hurting. Again, confirmation to me, God is faithful and keeps his promises. No matter how long it takes, I am going to keep praying for my H to find his way back to God. Because then, when H finds his way to God he will find peace and the rest of his life will fall into place perfectly.
Keep praying for your H/W/exH/exW, because God does hear our prayers.
Blessings to all and remember that Jesus is the only Valentine you can rely on right now.
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
