The "Farewell" text messages

[BeingMe]

Hi! I so wish there wasn't a reason for people to be on this board, but that is life, not so. DnB, there is no hope if you cannot get your anger under control. If you are calling your wife ugly names, and being sarcastic, then she will find herself justified in leaving.

I am sorry. However, I now appreciate more than ever that your anger is insurmountable. Goodbye xxxx. Although it fills me with pain to say this, I hope you find what makes you happy even though I will not be a part. I would have walked to the end of the earth to have made it work.

You say you are sorry, then you go on to complain about her "insurmountable anger". You cannot tell her how she feels, only how you feel. You tell her that you hope that she finds happiness, but then tell her you can't look after her dogs, because you don't want her to pursue that happiness. Again, how do you know it's a OM ... she could just be going out with friends. You said goodbye, but you are asking if there is hope. I just don't get it.

You are making too many assumptions about her life, and trying to control her, even when the text appears kind, and sorrowful. It sounds like you are telling her what you think she wants to hear.

You will always have a piece of me. I will miss you. Under all those layers is someone very special. I still say that. You think its easy for me to move on its not. Many tears have been shed. I will always love you. I will always remember the happy times. It’s time for us to let each other go.

This part of her text is what might show some hope. If she can say these words even though you have disparaged her and her feel less than a mother and wife, then I say again.... you do have some hope. But you're going to have to tread carefully, and stick to what you have promised. Give her space.

You say you would've walked to the ends of the earth to make it work ... really? How about changing how you interact with your W and the mother of your children. I think she would've preferred that.

I am sorry for the 2x4, but you will have to wake up and realize your part in the downfall of this M, if you are going to have any chance of fixing this. Say what you say and mean what you mean.

Good luck!