BIG NEWS IN MY SITCH - HUGE

[forward]

Trusting, I think you and I are in a similar place and I do think that it is hard to let go of the idea of a family made whole. But IF--and that is a big word at this stage of the game for me and probably for you too--X is ever to make a gesture in your direction, you need to be happy and whole yourself, and yes, that does mean letting go of what's happening with those two.

With that said, since you did get an apology from your X, I can understand how that would open a lot of old wounds. Be easy on yourself here...but the advice is on target.