You go sweet girl!!! Your knocking down some walls!!!
One thing that stood out for me was this....PLEASE stop trying to hack/find evidence to a poss EA/PA. Sweetie, I'm speaking from the pain of experience. If it's really out there. You don't want to know about the details and etc. You can't get that stuff out of your head once it's there. It will kill everything that you are working for.
Cause, the real deal is this...you already feel that he has. So, getting proof to confirm it by checking his emails and etc. Will do what for you?
Leave it alone...put all your energy into what it is you want and keep DBing. If he has lied and had a A. It will come out in due time. It ALWAYS does, and if it does you will be able to handle it then. Cause, right now YOUR not ready for that either..
So, keep going girl! Your on the right track!!
Hugs~ Dixie
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010