Holly06 i will try to remember to see the reason behind the behaviour, that is a good idea, but there is no other woman!? Dont know where u got that idea! He has made up with me and explained some of the things he feels and i told him i see his point but i am not going to let him yell or threaten and get away with it. I Forward, thankyou too, i so need to build myself up, that may be my key to inner happiness and losing the aura of weakness and neediness. I find this hard to do though and will need help.