2 and I have talked about this. All the changes you have made are obviously great and they are always fresh in your head. It's the application of the those changes are the hardest. It's behavior modification really. You have spent your whole life a certain way and it's not going to reverse itself in a short span of time.

My therapist kicked my a$$ for 8 mos and she said the same thing. Every session we delved deeper and deeper and put solution oriented plans in place vs. the negative ones I had before. Applying them was tested more than I thought they would on a daily basis. These changes will affect every relationship you have; work, friends etc. They are just not geared towards your M. It's good tho, because it helps you stay focused on all that hard work. Backsliding is just part of the process. But the bigger picture is knowing that all this hard work is paying off for YOU and you can catch yourself more and more frequently when you feel you might be slipping too much.

Plus you have all of us here to kick your butt!!


BITS

M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0
T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd)
WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved
Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10
Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11