New Court Date set.....

[lostinscared]

I need a pair of leopard print shoes. I bought a leopard print bra and panty set and that just totally made me feel like I kick butt!!!

Gypsy, it is just a piece of paper. I keep talking about one of my closest friends who divorced his wife and then remarried her again. I know it happens. A lot more than people think.

I completely understand about how that piece of paper caught you. I am an amateur genealogist. I do a lot of research that includes gathering newspaper articles, deeds, birth, marriage and death certificates. I hate getting the death certificates in the mail. I mean I know the relatives are dead, but after awhile they are alive to me and then the death certificate comes and it gets me down. Your reaction is that to the 1000th power. There isn't a thing wrong with you.

I am glad that you made the decision to continue on DB'ing. I am glad that Gypsy keeps shining through. I honestly want to hang out with Gypsy all the time because you just keep me laughing. You have such an infectious personality...

Gypsy, are you having interactions with your H?

LIS

[zengypsy]

I need a pair of leopard print shoes. I bought a leopard print bra and panty set and that just totally made me feel like I kick butt!!!

Gypsy, it is just a piece of paper. I keep talking about one of my closest friends who divorced his wife and then remarried her again. I know it happens. A lot more than people think.

I completely understand about how that piece of paper caught you. I am an amateur genealogist. I do a lot of research that includes gathering newspaper articles, deeds, birth, marriage and death certificates. I hate getting the death certificates in the mail. I mean I know the relatives are dead, but after awhile they are alive to me and then the death certificate comes and it gets me down. Your reaction is that to the 1000th power. There isn't a thing wrong with you.

I am glad that you made the decision to continue on DB'ing. I am glad that Gypsy keeps shining through. I honestly want to hang out with Gypsy all the time because you just keep me laughing. You have such an infectious personality...

Gypsy, are you having interactions with your H?

LIS

LIS: I titally get it! Isn't retail therapy wonderful?! I showed my friend the shoes and she said if your H wasn't such an a$$, all you'd need are those shoes and a black bra/panties. He doesn't kow what he's missing. I said that's why he's an a$$!!! LOL

I appreciate your story about your friend and his wife getting remarried again. How long were they divorced? Did you post that on a thread somewhere? It does happen more often than people think. I'm hoping and praying I will be one of those people. On the same token, marriage is just a piece of paper too as some folks have pointed out to me.

Thanks for encouragement LIS. And thank you for always having such sweet things to say about me. You said things that my H used to say to me and it's really nice to hear them again because it shows me that my hard work continues to pay off. And, you are making that consensus about me without ever having met. If he only got to know me now, he would see that those things are still there and have always been, they just got camouflaged along the way.

I am having no interaction with H LIS and that's what makes it so hard. He only contacts me if it has something to do with the D. To be honest, I have no reason to contact him either. We have a dog that we got together and I had hoped that would keep us connected, but it hasn't. He can't even speak about the dog because when he left me behind, he left our dog behind too. And that has been very painful for him.

Hope your having a good Sunday LIS - Zen

[zengypsy]

You sound better today Gypsy. Glad to hear it!

BITS
Denver

Denver - I'm doing a bit better. Thanks for checking in. I just felt so good about helping my friend yesterday so maybe that's showing thru!

[zengypsy]

I'm so sorry that you had to experience the very thing all of us here dread - Unfortunatus Divorcicus. Pardon my rusty Latin, but I just said a prayer for you and hope you had a good nights sleep by the time you read this.

This sense of power our WAS now have is addictive, which is probably what coaxes them out the marital door, sadly. My wife is definitely hooked. Just hope the side effects kick in soon, you know?

Alamo - thank you for your prayer. I did have a decent nights sleep for a change so you must have a pretty good connection!

WAS are just at a crossroads. The illusion that they are happy to themselves, to others and to us is just baffling. They can only be hooked for so long. I really believe that. You hang in there yourself.

[grr]

hey zen,
so sorry i wasn't there for you when this happened
i've never looked at it that way before, but it is only a piece of paper
however, i will not take for granted that it was painful to receive
i so feel your pain
but keep on moving forward and let him see what he is missing
that's the only way to go
enjoy each day, buy those shoes and go out and show them off!
lets see how happy they are without us, and i tend to think it might show us that we are happy without them
THAT seems to be when they return, when we are truly happy and come to the realization that we had a life before them and will have one after
xo

[hope2011]

Just want to say that I'm thinking of you and hoping that today is better. Praying hard for you, Zen!!!

[Chrysalid]

i'm so sorry zen about receiving the D paper. That must have been so crushing for you but can i say jealous at your new leopard print shoes !! You could have sat and wallowed and soaked that paper with tears but you treated yourself, you've worked so hard and instead of feeling like it was a setback you rewarded yourself. good for you girl !

yes, it is just a piece of paper, it's not a death sentence and there are other forms of paper too.. sticky notes !! write positive things to yourself and stick them all over that darn posted D paper on your fridge so you can remind yourself it's not over. You want to keep trying, so do all you can, you still have LOTS of time.

hang in there ! *hugs*

[MsRae]

Zen,

I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now.

Everyone's right, it's just a piece of paper. You can keep DB'ing your tail off!

You were the very first person to ever respond to me and I'll never forget that. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that you managed to have a great day.

Hugs,

Rae

[Denver_2010]

Hey Gypsy! All of this talk about leopard print women's clothing is exciting! LOL... Keep it up BITS! And no 2Step and FOBD... I'm not talking to you guys.

Wondering... do you and your H facebook? If so, are you friends?

BITS
Denver

[zengypsy]

My girls on this board ROCK (and so do you boys too but there's just more of you!)

I am having a better day. Tommorrow is going to be a bit hard, not only is it V-day, but it would have been my mom's 79th b-day. I am going to do a 180 tho and celebrate her life instead of being all doom and gloom about it like I have been for the last 8 years (she'll be gone 9 this year). I started Sat. night by going to dinner at her fave restaurant and today going to her fav pizza place and haveing a cupcake for dessert in her honor. This will be the first V-day that H will not be at the house.

Denver.....Now that I got your attention!!!!!.....LOL!! I wish I could take a pic of my shoes and post it! Yes, my H and I do have FB pages and we are friends....for now. I have a feeling after the D that will change. I don't post anything on his page tho nor he on mine. He has blocked me on and off since he left. I have never blocked him because I have nothing to hide.