Well, you're right that it could've been worse and I appreciate the emotional satisfaction you probably got by staking your position on the matter. But will you gain anything by it? Do you think your response will make it less likely she'll engage with OM tonite, or any night? In my own experience, knowing I'm not gonna change the sitch (i.e., she's gonna do what she wants) leads me to provide less emotional, more 'detached' responses. Think of what she will NOT expect, and hit her with it. Like maybe "Sure, I'll take care of the dog. Happy to help you out." I know it will kill you to swallow your feelings, but the key is to gradually give her a reason to come back, not to reinforce the feelings that made her leave.
Just my two cents. I'm praying for you as I prayer for my own wife and family.
Marcusko
Me: 55 Wife: 50 D: 13, D: 17 Married: 21 years Together: 24 years The Bomb: 3/1/2010 Reconciled: 4/29/2010 Separated: Oct 2010
