Is there such a thing as QLC??? Please HELP!!!!!!

[MynameisMZ]

B-TEENA,

About 13 yrs ago I had my zodiac chart done. The woman who did it pointed out 2 crucial life-changing times. I don't know which is which, but one is the Saturn Return and the other is Uranus Return.
One happens between 28-32 yrs of age and the other at 40. So that may explain something....if you believe at all in it.

I'm no expert here. I can only share my own insights. I have suggestions that are only my opinions.

My H at age 51 or 52 started a MLC. During the phases he went from an EA to a PA that came to light (to me) in April 2010 when he was 54. I was BUSY at work and basically clueless to the A. I think NOW that this "cluelessness" in me may have saved my M. I basically IGNORED all his bad behavior. It wasn't by choice, it was because I was just plain ignorant of what was going on....and I trusted him 1000%. If he was rude or mean, I let myself drift around it like a boulder in a stream. When I read the various techniques in DB and DR I realized that without knowing it, I was employing them. I feel fortunate in that.

I can't tell you how many times I go back in mind, knowing what I know today, and envision what I might have done if I had acted on my suspicions. It would have been a disaster. In reality? I basically let H have his A and let it run its course. I stayed out of it. I know now that there was no way I was going to be able to compete with her. She was 22 years younger than me and very similar in intellect to my H. PLUS he was re-enacting his father's legacy that couldn't involve me. She was also an evil person who was mean to many other people, BUT she "chose" my H to be HER "best friend" and this was a correction of sorts for his own childhood when he was bullied. The bully picked him.

I'm telling you this because you never really know what they are re-enacting for themselves. It's almost like they have to do it. If it involves you, you get contaminated. In and of that, you can't be a part of it. Gosh I hope I'm making sense.

Today, my bottom line advice is:

*you need to be stronger than you have ever had to be.

*stay busy with YOUR life.

*don't make him leave, do "support" him in what he "needs to do."

*be uber sane and rational.

Once the reality of his A woke me up, I felt more pain than I had ever felt in my entire life....and I've been through a lot! I fall short of my own advice all the time. When I do get myself back to what I call "my code' and "work the program" I am very successful. My H and I are in piecing now and very much in love. I can't believe how much my man loves me.....and I love him. He is fighting for me as much as I am for him. We've become a team.

Hope this helps.

MZ