It's me that's cycling!

[Holly06]

My appologies for misposting. Something has changed around here.
(Can I blame it on that?)

My 3 D's were all swimmers. If I have but 1 day to live, please let it be at a swim meet.
They last forever.
Still have the scent of clorine available anytime I want it. Memories,,

However, I did want to post a reply to your 2 choices that you spoke of yesterday.
May I endorse the , less is more policy?
You may resume the friendly R with H as he is in LaLa land, and that may feel right at the time, and for the time being.
I think you will be better off, acting as if you are, or truly do distancing yourself from him. He will miss you, and then the R with OW will fizzle even more. He will act out, she will accuse him of seeing you.... it will be the reverse of the initial roles you all had.
Distancing brings him closer, and how many times have I heard that when they think they are losing you they have to think?
Last reason for leaving him alone AMAPossible.....
whenever they are alone they have time to think. After they think, they move. Sometimes you see the progress, sometimes you do not. Even today, with a new R with my X, I see this. X is still finishing his crisis, and he still needs to make progress.
Call him when you need to, delay returning calls, be ready with the " I have lots of things on my mind, (with a wicked little smile) when you do get a ? and act content and happy.
I really think he will notice. This time, OW will pay the price.