It's me that's cycling!

[Holly06]

Dolphin,
I am an oldie but goodie, and your inquires tripped the switch and I logged back on.
That, and my good friend Yellowrose.

You asked about sucess stories. I may be one in the making, but I want you to see something from my POV.
I had been waiting around for 4 years. Endured a premature return and eventual D, that he wanted.
We are now in a R, that IS better than it has ever been.
Most of the time I am quite content.
BUT (and yes I have a big BUTT)
Now that I am here, I am seeing some of my constellation stars that are helping me navigating my way though this falling out of the sky.
If you think you are scared now, wait until you have invested (now) 5 years and everything is going great, and find out that that the happy ending is not the end of the story? When the navigational route is litered with the broken pieces of your friends that have been sucesses?
Don't get me wrong, I am very happy now, in R with XH (yes, X.)that is awesome and moving forward.

My point it this.

Sucess is down the road. No matter what path you choose, no matter what happens to you on that path, you will be OK, even better, GREAT! That path will have so many , "am I doing the right thing? "s your will think you are climbing the Alps.

That is the legacy of what we are going through.

I have another great friend here on the boards. Her sitch is entirely different. Her H has not been able to pull the trigger on the D, with 2 failed attempts on his part. He is 5 yrs + in his MLC, progress home is not evident to date, but there has been progress. Is Bookpusher less or more happy than I am?
No. She has been seeing people on and off, and living a life that is full and meaningful. She is happy. Sometimes better off than me.

So, now that the big metaphors are all gone, You will be OK.
Know this. Whatever happens in your sitch you will be happy, and in a R withsomeone that wow's you. You keep doing what you think is right. Do what is good for you and your children.
The more you drift away (detach) from her, the more she will feel it.
Will that make the difference? No. It might, it might not. But you will be better.
You take care, OK? That is all we can do, and from my POV that is success. Doing all you can do, and finding that you can make your own happiness again.
Hoolly.
By the way, do you know where I can get a dancing pole? Mine broke along the way.....