After reading my post, I want to be sure you don't misunderstand what I was trying to say. I didn't think my words through very well.
1) Of course anyone who have had the needs for EA/opposite sex friends outside of the marriage can change if they so desire. Isn't that the basis for personal growth, and what we're all about here? I'm questioning my husband's ability to do that, because I don't see that he has your desire to change. 2) You are way ahead of so many, because you recognize what you were doing and why. I was trying to let you see what your wife was possibly experiencing because I've been there. My H always said they were just friendships, but they were detrimental to me and the marriage. And I don't think I'm overly sensitive about that. 3) It looks like I was venting on your thread. I didn't realize that at the time. So sorry.
Again, I hope you didn't take my comments the wrong way. You are making great strides in your sitch - much greater strides than I am. And I'm pulling for you.
