Kevc, I am checking back with you. By the time this gets posted you'll be in the middle of her visit. I pray you've been able to DB this week. Do fun things with the children. leave the door open for your W to join in, but do not point out the open door or pressure in anyway. Let it be her decision, and if she does let her see she is welcome. If she withdraws, let it happen without notice from you. If she is testing the waters she needs to see she is welcome, the water is fine, and she can leave anytime. There is no control of you here is the message I would show to her, but not say to her. She needs to see it.
Control or perceived control is very subtle. In my own world my W perceived control simply because I spent to much energy ensuring we spent as much time as possible together. I was smothering her ability to be herself. She saw that as I was trying to make her into what I wanted her to be, not allowing her to be herself. Taken to that extreme this is control. It does not matter that it was not my intention. What matters is she perceived it as control.
This board is full of references to the WAS perceiving things not as intended or beyond reality. I helps them justify their actions. They need to see your 180's. You need to GAL to be happier and more attractive. Are you reading DB or DR?
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
