H called my cell and work phone Thur afternoon while I was exercising, but didn't leave a message.
Friday night I put his mail in his front door, and left a voicemail telling him it was there. (He seldom answers my calls.)
S came home today, and stopped to see H first. Later S and I visited my mom and H's dad- both are in different nursing homes.
Later I got a text from H asking if I was home. I replied yes. Over an hour later he showed up while S and I were watching tv. H joins us, and proceeds to send two lengthy text messages.
I mention that his dad looked good tonight. He wanted to know what that was all about. I told him S and I visited my mom first, then his dad. I got the feeling he didn't think I should be seeing his dad. (His sister has said she hopes I will visit him.)
H follows me to the kitchen. (I've been waiting since the S began for him to say he is filing for D, and I'm assuming that's why he called the other day.) He begins questioning/complaining to me that he's "not in the loop" about D wedding planning. I said I'm sure she'd be glad to talk to him if he asked. He comes across to me that it's somehow my fault he doesn't feel like he knows any and everything. I told him I didn't think much had been done since he'd moved out, but shared a few items I knew about. Did I handle this correctly? It's up to him and D to maintain their relationship, isn't it?
I told him I'd noticed a missed call from him this week when I was in a meeting. He wanted to know what kind of meeting, then said he couldn't remember why he had called. Should I have told him I was exercising? That's one of my 180s and GALing, so didn't think I should mention it. Then I wondered later if maybe he thought I was w a lawyer.
He then asks what he owes for bills this month, and I told him it would be about the same as last month and I'd get him the total tomorrow. He said he can't just get the money immediately. Keep in mind he's living in a building we own, so no rent to pay and utilities have to be under $300 a month there. He says he assumes I'm making sure the mortgages are paid, etc. Wth? Does he think I'm just taking his money and not paying bills?
We always have a special dish on Christmas Eve, and seldom have it any other time. It is a little expensive to make, and I made some comment to that affect. (I know, wrong thing to say.) He tells me that he bought the ingredients, but didn't know how to make it. I start to copy the recipe for him, and he says not to worry about it, because it's expensive and he shouldn't have it. I said you have everything already . . . He tells me to stop writing down the recipe, then he finishes it. Should I not have offered to write it? Was he feeling guilty? Does he see me as controlling when I do that? I've given him several recipes since he's moved out, and sometimes he texts and asks for them.
I know he was on the phone with OW for several hours this afternoon, so it makes me wonder what he's planning. He seemed angry with me, different from the last time he was here two weeks ago.
