I have got to be honest with you, if it were some of us other folks, I would be screaming the loudest about no date. What really has me struggling right now in your case is the fact that she specifically mentions showing up at her mother's doorstep. Women don't say stuff like that unless they are trying to encourage something. I mean, we are specifically taken aside in kindergarten and taught how to dissuade men's advances and we know not to say stuff like that.
Obviously, I'm pretty opinionated, but I hesitate to answer that question. I believe that your W is looking for something and I don't think that closure is it right now. I think she is paving the road back. I REALLY believe it. Can you call the coach back? See how she reads this? She was there when your W made the comment and a bit more has happened since then.
I can't get over the book either that she read to you.
Yes, I believe it is time to make a move and do something. She has already made a move (with the book). I just don't know what move. I feel so bad saying that to you because I want to help, but I don't know. This is why I am asking you to call the coach. Maybe we can brainstorm a few things on here. Maybe a date? I just don't want anything too big or too romantic to scare her off.
2Step, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE listen to me. I've said this before to you. Please write down the signs that would tell you that she is turning a corner. When those things happen, WRITE THEM DOWN. I did this, just like the book told me to. When people were telling me that my H's behavior was typical of a recently separated spouse, I had my trusty list. I KNEW he was turning. Even as he walked out that door, I knew he was turning. You know your W better than anyone. You know "typical" behavior and you know "turning" behavior. And I am telling you right now, get it written down. It will help you tremendously. It will also keep you lifted up when you are down. Those little steps, 2Step, they add up FAST.
Take care of you, sweetie!!! I am praying for you.
